Important Notice
Estate planning laws vary by state and individual circumstances. This guide provides general educational information only. Consult with an estate planning attorney in your state to create documents tailored to your specific situation.
$15 million
federal estate tax exemption per person in 2026
— IRS, 2026. State thresholds start at $1 million.
For most families with a few million dollars, estate planning is no longer mainly about federal estate tax. It is about getting each asset to the right person without probate, limiting the income and state taxes heirs pay, and making sure someone you trust can act if you cannot.
This guide covers the five core documents, how each kind of asset actually passes, a worked example of a couple's estate from the first death to the second, the state estate and inheritance taxes that still apply, the beneficiary-form mistakes that cost families most, how to leave money to grandchildren, and what your executor will face in the first 90 days. It is general education, not legal advice; the rules are set state by state.
What Happens Without an Estate Plan?
State law and a probate court make the decisions you did not. Accounts with named beneficiaries still pass directly, but everything in your name alone goes through probate, and if you lose capacity without powers of attorney, your family may need a court to let them pay your bills.
Without an Estate Plan
- State decides who gets your assets (intestacy laws)
- A court may appoint a guardian or conservator if you lose capacity
- Probate can take many months, sometimes years, with court and legal fees
- Family disputes are more likely without clear instructions
- No one can make medical or financial decisions for you if incapacitated
With an Estate Plan
- You decide exactly who gets what
- You choose who manages your money and care if you cannot
- Assets transfer faster (trusts avoid probate entirely)
- Clear instructions prevent family conflict
- Trusted people can act on your behalf when needed
Real Talk
You don't create an estate plan for yourself—you do it for the people you leave behind. It's one of the most caring things you can do for your family.
What Are the 5 Essential Estate Planning Documents?
A complete estate plan typically includes these five core documents. Think of them as a protection package for your family.
1. Last Will and Testament
Your will is the foundation of your estate plan. It specifies who gets what and names key people.
What It Does:
- • Distributes assets not in a trust or with beneficiaries
- • Names an executor to manage your estate
- • Names guardians for minor children
- • Can create trusts for minors or special needs
What It Doesn't Do:
- • Override beneficiary designations
- • Avoid probate (most assets go through probate)
- • Help if you become incapacitated
- • Apply to jointly owned property
Cost: $150-500 (online), $500-2,000 (attorney)
2. Revocable Living Trust (Optional but Powerful)
A trust holds assets for beneficiaries and avoids probate entirely. You remain in control while alive.
Key Benefits:
- • Avoids probate (faster, cheaper, private)
- • Works if you become incapacitated
- • Can include detailed conditions
- • Flexible—you can change it anytime
Consider If You:
- • Own real estate (especially in multiple states)
- • Want privacy (wills become public record)
- • Have complex family situations
- • Want quick asset transfer at death
Cost: $500-1,500 (online), $1,500-5,000+ (attorney)
3. Financial Power of Attorney
Names someone to manage your finances if you can't. This is essential—without it, your family may need to go to court to pay your bills.
What Your Agent Can Do:
- • Pay bills and manage bank accounts
- • Handle investments and retirement accounts
- • File taxes on your behalf
- • Manage real estate transactions
Types:
- • Durable: Survives your incapacity (most common)
- • Springing: Only activates upon incapacity
- • Limited: For specific transactions only
4. Healthcare Power of Attorney
Names someone to make medical decisions when you can't communicate your wishes.
What Your Agent Can Do:
- • Consent to or refuse treatment
- • Choose doctors and facilities
- • Access your medical records
- • Make end-of-life decisions
Choosing an Agent:
- • Pick someone who knows your values
- • Must be willing to advocate for you
- • Should be accessible in emergencies
- • Consider naming a backup
5. Living Will (Advance Healthcare Directive)
Documents your wishes for end-of-life medical care, so your family doesn't have to guess.
Decisions You Can Specify:
- Life support/ventilator preferences
- Tube feeding (artificial nutrition)
- CPR/resuscitation preferences
- Pain management priorities
- Organ donation wishes
- Comfort care preferences
Wills vs. Trusts: Which Do You Need?
Accounts with a named beneficiary
401(k), IRA, life insurance, annuities, POD/TOD accounts
Beneficiary designationGoes straight to the named person
Even if your will says otherwise
Skips probateAssets titled to a living trust
Home, brokerage and bank accounts you retitle
Your trust and trusteeDistributed as the trust directs
Private, and faster than probate
Skips probateAssets in your name alone
With a will
Probate court + your willHeirs named in your will
Public record; often months to years; court and legal fees
ProbateAssets in your name alone
With no will
Probate court + state lawHeirs your state chooses
Intestacy law decides, not you
State decides
A will only controls the third row. That is why beneficiary designations and trust funding matter as much as the will itself.
This is one of the most common questions in estate planning. Here's a clear comparison:
| Feature | Will | Living Trust |
|---|---|---|
| Probate | Goes through probate | Avoids probate |
| Privacy | Becomes public record | Stays private |
| Incapacity | Doesn't help | Successor takes over |
| Cost to Create | Less expensive | More expensive |
| Cost at Death | Probate court and legal fees | Lower costs |
| Time to Distribute | 6 months to 3 years | Days to weeks |
| Naming Guardians | Yes | No (need a will too) |
| Ongoing Effort | Set and forget | Must fund the trust |
A Will Is Probably Enough If:
- Your home is jointly owned with right of survivorship and there is no second property
- You only own property in one state
- Most assets pass via beneficiary designations
- Your state has simplified probate for small estates
Consider a Trust If:
- You own real estate (especially in multiple states)
- You value privacy
- You have a blended family or complex situation (see blended family estate planning)
- You want to set conditions on inheritance
- Your state has expensive/slow probate
Pro Tip
Even with a trust, you still need a "pour-over will" to catch any assets left outside the trust and to name an executor. Most estate plans include both.
Why Are Beneficiary Designations So Important?
Critical: Beneficiaries Override Your Will
Many people don't realize that beneficiary designations trump everything else—including your will and trust. If your ex-spouse is still named on your 401(k), they'll get it, no matter what your will says.
These accounts pass directly to named beneficiaries (outside of probate):
Retirement Accounts
- • 401(k) / 403(b)
- • Traditional IRA
- • Roth IRA
- • Pension plans
Insurance
- • Life insurance policies
- • Annuities
- • Long-term care insurance
Financial Accounts
- • Bank accounts with POD
- • Brokerage accounts with TOD
- • HSA accounts
Beneficiary Review Checklist
Review Annually After:
- Marriage or divorce
- Birth or adoption of a child
- Death of a beneficiary
- Major life events of beneficiaries
Best Practices:
- Always name a contingent beneficiary
- Never name "estate" as beneficiary for retirement
- Consider a trust for minor beneficiaries
- Keep a master list of all beneficiaries
How Does a Couple's Estate Actually Pass?
In two steps: almost everything goes to the surviving spouse at the first death, and the real distribution, and most of the tax planning, happens at the second. Richard, 76, and Anne, 73, are a hypothetical married couple in a common-law state with two adult children and four grandchildren. They own about $3.4 million:
| Asset | Value | Title or beneficiary |
|---|---|---|
| Home | $950,000 | Joint, with right of survivorship |
| Richard's traditional IRA | $1,300,000 | Anne primary; children contingent |
| Anne's traditional IRA | $400,000 | Richard primary; children contingent |
| Richard's Roth IRA | $150,000 | Anne primary; children contingent |
| Brokerage account (cost basis $250,000) | $550,000 | Their revocable living trust |
| Checking and savings | $50,000 | Joint |
| Total | $3,400,000 |
Richard dies at 79
- Nothing goes through probate. The house and bank accounts pass to Anne by survivorship, the IRAs by beneficiary form, and the brokerage account stays in the trust with Anne as sole trustee. Richard's will has almost nothing to do.
- No federal estate tax. Everything left to a U.S.-citizen spouse qualifies for the unlimited marital deduction, whatever the amount.
- Anne treats Richard's IRA as her own. A surviving spouse can roll an inherited IRA into her own name, so required distributions follow her age and her life expectancy rather than an inherited-IRA schedule. The Roth becomes hers too, with no required distributions.
- Half the basis steps up. Richard's half of the house and of the brokerage account takes a new basis equal to its value at his death. If the account is still worth $550,000, its basis rises from $250,000 to $400,000 (Anne's original $125,000 plus Richard's half at $275,000). In the nine community-property states both halves step up at the first death.
- Anne decides on portability. Filing a federal estate tax return (Form 706) for Richard would preserve his unused federal exemption for her. At $3.4 million it looks unnecessary, but the exemption has changed many times, and the IRS allows a simplified late election for up to five years after death.
Anne dies at 88
By then her IRAs total about $1.6 million after years of required distributions, the Roth is worth $260,000, and the house and brokerage account, both retitled into the trust after Richard's death, are worth $1.6 million. The trust divides that $1.6 million between the two children, with a share held in trust for the grandchildren as described below. The house and brokerage account step up in full to their value on her death, so the children can sell them with little or no capital-gains tax.
The IRAs are the part that needs planning. Each child inherits about $800,000 of pre-tax money and, as a non-spouse beneficiary, must empty it by the end of the tenth year after Anne's death. Because Anne had already reached her required beginning date, they must also take an annual distribution in years one through nine. If both children are still working, those withdrawals land on top of their salaries, often in the 24% or 32% bracket. The Roth, by contrast, must also be emptied within ten years but comes out tax-free. That is the estate-planning case for Roth conversions before RMDs, and the inherited IRA 10-year rule covers the heirs' side in detail. The inherited IRA RMD calculator shows what your heirs will have to withdraw each year.
Three situations need more than the standard plan: a second marriage with children from the first (blended family estate planning), a partner you are not married to (estate planning for unmarried couples), and an heir who relies on SSI or Medicaid (special needs trusts and ABLE accounts).
At about $3.5 million, Anne's estate owes no federal estate tax. Whether it owes state tax depends entirely on where she lived, which is the subject of the next section.
Will Your Heirs Owe Estate or Inheritance Tax?
Federal estate tax almost certainly not: the 2026 exemption is $15 million per person, and a married couple can shelter $30 million with portability. State tax is the real risk, because 12 states and the District of Columbia have their own estate tax, most with far lower thresholds, and five states tax inheritances. The federal exemption rose to $15,000,000 for 2026 and will be indexed for inflation from 2027; the top rate above it is 40% (IRS, 2026). Our estate and gift tax calculator shows how far your estate is from the line, with and without portability.
| State | Exemption | Notes and source |
|---|---|---|
| Connecticut | $15,000,000 | Matches the federal exemption; 12% above it; CT DRS |
| District of Columbia | $4,988,400 | DC OTR |
| Hawaii | $5,490,000 | Unused exemption is portable to a spouse; Hawaii DOTAX |
| Illinois | $4,000,000 | Illinois AG |
| Maine | $7,160,000 | Maine Revenue |
| Maryland | $5,000,000 | Also has an inheritance tax (below); Comptroller of Maryland |
| Massachusetts | $2,000,000 | Tax applies to the estate above $2 million; no cliff; Mass. DOR |
| Minnesota | $3,000,000 | Minnesota Revenue |
| New York | $7,350,000 | Cliff: an estate more than 5% above the exemption loses it entirely; NY DTF |
| Oregon | $1,000,000 | Filing threshold; Oregon DOR |
| Rhode Island | $1,838,056 | Indexed to inflation each year; RI Division of Taxation |
| Vermont | $5,000,000 | Vermont Tax |
| Washington | $3,076,000 | Rates up to 35% for deaths from July 1, 2025; Washington DOR |
An estate tax is charged on the whole estate before it is distributed. An inheritance tax is charged on what each heir receives, at a rate set by the heir's relationship to you, so it rarely touches a spouse or children. Iowa repealed its inheritance tax for deaths on or after January 1, 2025 (Iowa DOR), and New Jersey's estate tax ended in 2018, leaving these five:
| State | Who pays what, and source |
|---|---|
| Pennsylvania | Spouse 0%; children and grandchildren 4.5%; siblings 12%; others 15%; PA Revenue |
| New Jersey | Spouse, children, grandchildren and parents exempt (Class A); most others 11% to 16%; NJ Treasury |
| Kentucky | Spouse, children, grandchildren, parents and siblings exempt (Class A); others 4% to 16%; Kentucky DOR |
| Maryland | Spouse, descendants, parents and siblings exempt; others 10%; Maryland Register of Wills |
| Nebraska | Spouse exempt; children, grandchildren and siblings 1% above $100,000; no tax on heirs under 22; Nebraska DOR |
Three consequences for planning. First, state tax follows your domicile, and real estate is generally taxed by the state where it sits, so a Florida retiree who keeps a house in Massachusetts can still owe Massachusetts estate tax on it. Second, most state exemptions cannot be passed to a surviving spouse the way the federal exemption can; Hawaii and Maryland are the main exceptions. In a state like Massachusetts, a couple with $3.4 million who leave everything to each other use one $2 million exemption instead of two. A credit shelter (bypass) trust, funded at the first death up to the state exemption, is the standard fix. Third, the New York cliff means an estate a little above the line can owe tax on the whole amount, so estates near $7.35 million there need specific planning. The rates and rules change often; check the state's own page before relying on any figure.
What Beneficiary Designation Mistakes Cost Families Most?
The ones that send money to the wrong person, through probate, or out of a tax-deferred account years earlier than necessary. In most retirement estates the beneficiary forms control more money than the will, and they are the documents least often reviewed.
- 1
An ex-spouse still named on a 401(k) or pension.
Federal law (ERISA) generally requires a workplace plan to pay the beneficiary named in the plan documents, even when a state law would revoke a gift to an ex-spouse after divorce; the Supreme Court held as much in Egelhoff v. Egelhoff (2001). Most 401(k) plans also require a married participant’s spouse to consent in writing, before a notary or plan representative, to any other beneficiary. Update the form yourself after a divorce or remarriage.
- 2
No contingent beneficiary.
If the primary beneficiary dies first and no contingent is named, the account usually defaults to your estate under the plan document, which brings it into probate.
- 3
Naming "my estate".
It sends the account through probate and, for an IRA, usually shortens the payout: if the owner dies before the required beginning date and the estate is the beneficiary, the account must be emptied within five years, and heirs lose the option to spread withdrawals over ten.
- 4
Naming a minor grandchild directly.
A minor cannot control the account, so a court may need to appoint a guardian or conservator of the property, and the money is typically handed over outright at the age of majority. Name a trust or a custodian under your state’s Uniform Transfers to Minors Act instead.
- 5
Leaving a disabled heir money outright.
An inheritance can disqualify someone who relies on means-tested benefits such as SSI or Medicaid. A supplemental needs trust, drafted by an attorney, can hold the money for them without that effect.
- 6
Splitting assets without adjusting for tax.
Leaving the $800,000 IRA to one child and the $800,000 stepped-up brokerage account to the other is not an equal split: the IRA carries an income tax bill and the brokerage account largely does not. Divide each account by percentage instead.
- 7
Not choosing per stirpes.
If a child dies before you, many forms by default divide that child’s share among the surviving named beneficiaries, cutting out the grandchildren. Selecting "per stirpes", where the form allows it, passes the share to that child’s descendants.
- 8
Assuming the old form survived a merger.
After a plan changes custodian or a bank is acquired, confirm your beneficiaries in writing on the new firm’s form.
What Is the Best Way to Leave Money to Grandchildren?
For most families, a trust that holds the money until the grandchild is old enough, with an education fund on the side. Money left outright to a grandchild under 18 has to be managed by someone the court approves, and it arrives in full at an age many grandparents consider too young.
| Vehicle | Who controls it | Worth knowing |
|---|---|---|
| 529 plan | The owner (you, or a successor owner you name) | Growth is free of federal income tax for qualified education. You can front-load five years of annual exclusions, $95,000 per grandchild in 2026, by electing on a gift-tax return (IRS). Name a successor owner so the plan does not pass through your estate. |
| UTMA or UGMA custodial account | A custodian until the age set by state law | The grandchild takes control at the end of the custodianship, commonly 18 or 21 and up to 25 in some states when set in a will or trust, such as California (Cal. Prob. Code 3920.5). The money is legally the child's. |
| Trust for grandchildren | A trustee, under terms you write | Can hold money to 25, 30 or for life, pay for education and health, and protect it from a grandchild's divorce or creditors. Allocating generation-skipping transfer (GST) exemption keeps it out of the separate GST tax. |
| Paying tuition or medical bills directly | You, as you pay | Payments made directly to a school or a medical provider are excluded from gift tax without limit and do not use the annual exclusion. |
Gifts and bequests that skip a generation can be subject to a separate generation-skipping transfer tax, but each person has a GST exemption equal to the estate exemption, $15,000,000 in 2026 (IRS Rev. Proc. 2025-32). For almost every family the practical point is to have the trust's drafter and the tax preparer allocate that exemption properly, not to worry about paying the tax.
The trust in Richard and Anne's plan holds 10% of the residue for the grandchildren, pays for education and health until the youngest is 25, and then divides what is left equally. It costs little to add to a living trust that is being drafted anyway. Gifting to children and grandchildren covers giving during your lifetime, which has the advantage that you see the money used.
What Does an Executor Do in the First 90 Days?
Mostly paperwork: secure the assets, get legal authority, notify the government and the institutions, and establish what everything was worth on the date of death. Knowing the sequence in advance is one of the kindest things you can leave the person you name. The order below is typical; your state's probate rules, and whether assets are in a trust, change the details.
Week 1
- Order certified death certificates; banks, insurers, the probate court and each retirement plan will want one, so ten or more is common.
- Find the original will and any trust, and secure the home, vehicles and valuables.
- Notify Social Security; the funeral home usually reports the death. Benefits are not payable for the month of death, so if the person died in July, the payment received in August must be returned (SSA).
- Keep paying ongoing bills, such as insurance and utilities, that protect the assets.
Weeks 2 to 4
- File the will with the probate court and apply to be appointed; the court’s letters testamentary are what banks will ask for.
- Get an employer identification number for the estate from the IRS, then file Form 56 to notify the IRS of your role as fiduciary.
- Open an estate checking account in the estate’s name and EIN; do not mix estate money with your own.
- Contact each IRA custodian, 401(k) plan and life insurer. These pay the named beneficiaries directly, so the executor’s job is mainly to tell the beneficiaries and supply death certificates.
- Ask Social Security about survivor benefits and the one-time $255 lump-sum death payment, which goes to a surviving spouse who lived with the deceased or to a child entitled to benefits.
Days 30 to 90
- Value every asset as of the date of death. Those values become the heirs’ stepped-up cost basis, so brokerage statements and a home appraisal dated close to death are worth getting now.
- Give notice to creditors as your state requires, and pay valid debts before any distributions.
- Make an inventory of assets for the court, where required.
- Decide with the surviving spouse and an adviser whether to file Form 706 to elect portability of the unused federal exemption.
- Track estate income. If the estate’s gross income for the year reaches $600, it must file its own income tax return, Form 1041.
Later deadlines follow: the decedent's final Form 1040 is due on the usual April date the year after death, and a federal estate tax return, where one is required or wanted for portability, is due nine months after death, with a six-month extension available. A successor trustee of a living trust does much the same work without the court filings.
How Do You Get Started With Estate Planning?
Don't let perfectionism stop you. An imperfect estate plan is infinitely better than none. Here's how to start:
Take Inventory
1-2 hoursList all your assets: bank accounts, investments, real estate, life insurance, retirement accounts, valuable possessions. Include debts too.
Choose Your People
1-2 hoursDecide who should be: executor, successor trustee (if using a trust), healthcare agent and financial agent. Always name backups, and consider whether an adult child who lives far away can realistically do the job.
Decide on Distribution
1-2 hoursWho gets what? Are there special circumstances (minor children, special needs, charities)? Any conditions on inheritance?
Create the Documents
2-4 hours (online) or 2-3 weeks (attorney)Use online services for simple situations or hire an attorney for complex needs. Either way, get it done.
Fund Your Trust (If Applicable)
VariesIf you created a trust, transfer assets into it. This step is often missed but critical for the trust to work.
Store Documents Safely
30 minutesKeep originals in a fireproof safe or safe deposit box. Give copies to your executor, agents, and attorney.
Review Regularly
OngoingSchedule a review every 3-5 years or after major life events (marriage, divorce, birth, death, major financial changes).
Should You DIY or Hire an Attorney?
| Option | Cost | Best For | Includes |
|---|---|---|---|
| Free State Forms | $0 | Very basic needs | POA, advance directives |
| Online Services (Trust & Will, LegalZoom) | $150-$600 | Simple estates, single state | Will, POAs, living will |
| Online Trust Package | $500-$1,500 | Real estate owners, privacy needs | Trust, pour-over will, POAs |
| Estate Planning Attorney | $1,500-$5,000+ | Complex situations, high net worth | Custom planning, ongoing support |
When to Use an Attorney
Consider professional help if you have: a blended family, property in multiple states, a special needs family member, business interests, net worth over $1M, or complex tax situations.
Important Document Location Checklist
Your executor and family need to know where to find everything. Use this checklist:
Estate Planning Documents:
- Will (location: _________)
- Trust documents (if any)
- Financial POA
- Healthcare POA / Living Will
- Attorney contact info
Financial Information:
- List of all accounts (bank, investment)
- Life insurance policies
- Property deeds
- Vehicle titles
- Safe deposit box key & location
- Password manager access
Questions to ask your estate attorney and CPA
Use this guide to understand how each asset passes and what it will cost your heirs in tax, then take these questions to the estate attorney who drafts the documents and the CPA who will prepare the returns.
- Which of our assets would go through probate in our state as they are titled today, and roughly what would that cost and how long would it take? Bring a list of every account with its owner, title and named beneficiaries.
- Will you review our beneficiary forms themselves, not only the will? Do they name contingents, say per stirpes where we want it, and match what the trust and will intend? Bring copies of each form.
- Does our state have an estate or inheritance tax that applies at our net worth, and would a credit shelter (bypass) trust at the first death reduce it? What would that trust cost the survivor each year in trustee work and a separate tax return?
- For the CPA: should the survivor file Form 706 to elect portability even though we are below the $15 million federal exemption, and what would preparing that return cost?
- For the CPA: our children are likely to inherit the IRAs while in the 24% or 32% bracket. Would Roth conversions now, or leaving the IRAs to lower-bracket heirs and the stepped-up assets to higher-bracket ones, lower the family's total tax?
- If we add a trust for the grandchildren, who allocates our GST exemption, on which return, and who checks that it was done?
- Is your fee flat or hourly, and does it include funding the trust (retitling the house and brokerage account) and later reviews? Would you or your firm expect to serve as trustee or executor, and on what fee?
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need a trust, or is a will enough?
A will is often enough when most of your wealth sits in accounts with named beneficiaries and your home is jointly owned with right of survivorship. A revocable living trust earns its cost when you own real estate in more than one state, want privacy, have a blended family, want to control when heirs receive money, or live in a state where probate is slow or expensive. Either way, a trust only works for assets retitled into it.
Will my estate owe federal estate tax?
Only if it is worth more than $15 million per person in 2026, or $30 million for a married couple who use portability. Everything left to a U.S.-citizen spouse is also free of federal estate tax. State estate taxes are the more common exposure: 12 states and the District of Columbia tax estates, with thresholds from $1 million in Oregon to $15 million in Connecticut.
Does a beneficiary designation override my will?
Yes. IRAs, 401(k)s, life insurance, annuities and payable-on-death or transfer-on-death accounts pass to the person named on the form, whatever the will says. For workplace plans, federal law generally requires the plan to pay the named beneficiary even after a divorce, so an ex-spouse left on the form can still collect.
What should I leave to children versus grandchildren?
Traditional IRAs are often better left to the heir in the lowest tax bracket, and taxable accounts and the home, which get a stepped-up basis, to heirs in higher brackets. Money for grandchildren is usually better held in a trust or a 529 plan than left to them outright, because a minor cannot control an account and an adult grandchild would receive it all at once.
How long does an executor have to settle an estate?
There is no single deadline, but the main dates are set by others: creditor notice periods under state law, the final Form 1040 due the April after death, an estate income tax return if the estate has gross income of $600 or more in a year, and a federal estate tax return, where needed or wanted for portability, nine months after death with a six-month extension available. A simple estate often takes a year; one with real estate or disputes can take longer.
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